Rules dating multiple men
Dating multiple people flattens out these neurotransmitter peaks and troughs over multiple men.You'll make better informed, more rational decisions about partners who are worth your exclusivity.Have you ever been on a date and found that you can remember every tiny detail (like how he held your hand, or what he said) but still not be able to recall what you had for dinner yesterday? Studies have shown your dopamine levels skyrocket when you first fall for someone, even after just one date.Like a speed user, the more hits you get, the more you focus your attention and derive pleasure from their presence alone.It's an uneven playing field, and one on which you're likely to lose.Most men take time — weeks or months — to decide they want to be exclusive with you.This dating pattern makes sense, as it gives him time to get to know you.When you date multiple people, you're just leveling the playing field. It's simply having the self-respect to say what's good for him is, and always will be, good for you.
It's the best way to make the worst decision of your life, and your brain is wired to do it. And it's directly associated with almost every form of clinical addiction in humans.You're investing heavily in him, without asking the same in return.Not only does your challenge (and therefore your attractiveness, in his eyes) decrease, you're putting yourself in a position to be more vulnerable to the dopamine swings than he is.Certain men, especially players or overly possessive types, cannot handle a woman multiple dating.They are happy to do it themselves, but when the tables are turned they quickly lose their mojo.