Dating victim of sexual abuse
According to the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network, every 98 seconds an American is sexually assaulted, including both male and female victims.
This means at some point in your dating life, odds are you will encounter a survivor.
We want you to have the best possible experience, so we’ve come up with a few ‘house rules’ to let you know what you can expect, and how we can help.
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Being a survivor—and the resilience that goes along with it—is such a deep part of who I am.And like I now tell my husband when we go away for the weekend: I may have a lot of baggage, but I’m strong enough to carry it myself. Even if this person is at the beginning of the process, you do not need to save or fix the person. Hold and honor this story with respect and confidence. Now that I’m married, I don’t have to share my story on romantic dates, but I still meet new friends and colleagues all the time.Sure, sometimes the person sharing might be doing so because they need some help, in which case you can refer them to a professional. And even if you are, you are on a date, not in a therapy session. But stunned, open-mouthed silence was something I encountered far too often. And while I don’t have to tell them about my history of sexual violence, I often do because I think it’s an important way to make the issue more accessible and personal.Being a survivor of sexual violence does not make you inherently damaged. While we continue to reduce the shame and stigma around sexual violence, it’s still a personal story.Sure, it’s a trauma, but with proper, professional help, survivors can live and thrive in the world. It’s not to announce to your friends and families, or to gossip about online or in person.